Excerpted from the executive report: Stopping Difficult People from Sucking the Life Out of Your Organization
It won’t always be an underling whose behavior you’re trying to change. In real life, the people who manage us can be difficult, too. If handled with tact, these techniques can be used successfully to address problematic behavior with superiors.
Your approach, how a problem is presented, becomes especially important and can have a big impact on success. A positive approach is almost always the way to go.
Let’s say you have a manager who is throwing you assignments at the last minute and leaving you in the lurch. If it happens all the time, it’s a problem. Your performance will eventually suffer because of it.
Be positive and firm: “Jim, when I get an assignment at the last minute it really puts me in a situation where I have to give up something else or I can’t do as good of a job as I normally would do. Is there some way we can work this out that I can sort of anticipate better when these kinds of assignments are coming?”
Remember, what you’re saying in reverse is: “Hey Jim, you’re an awful planner. Do you know that?” So of course, approach these with caution.
Sometimes the nature of your business won’t allow for better planning, for instance if you work for an emergency ambulance service. But at least, having had the discussion, everyone’s on the same page and there is a better understanding as to why assignments arise at the last minute.
Remember, you can’t fix everything. If you’ve thoroughly examined your own situation and you’ve come to the conclusion that your manager is just a jerk, that’s a lot more difficult. Your first question should be: Is the behavior really causing me a problem?
If it is, then you may be at the point where you have to either ask for a change of assignment or decide maybe this is not where you want to be.
DIGGING DEEPER
Whether it is a superior or a subordinate, dealing with difficult people takes a lot of you - and hurts morale and productivity. This Executive Report can help: Stopping Difficult People from Sucking the Life Out of Your Organization.
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