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Why managers hate difficult conversations

Most managers will do almost anything to avoid having a "difficult conversation" with an employee.

Obviously, they aren't fun and no one looks forward to them.

But there's another reason why managers hate them. They don't know how to do them!

Why? Well, most good managers were promoted into management because they almost always did the right thing - without being told. They had initiative. They produced results.

There's a good chance that their bosses never had to have a "difficult" conversation with them. So they don't know what it's like to be on either side of the difficult conversation. And therefore don't know what to do when they finally have to have one with their own employee.

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Difficult conversations are just part of business. And when they're needed, it's bad to put them off. The sooner you have the conversation, the better the employee, your staff and company will be. For help, read the Executive Report: Handling Difficult Conversations with Employees - What Every Manager Needs to Know.

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Writer's block: 7 ways to break through

Excerpted from the Executive Report: Business Writing: A Guide to Clear, Concise and Effective Writing.

It doesn't matter how many letters, reports or memos you've written. At some point, you'll find yourself staring at a blank screen, struggling to come up with that first paragraph or sentence.

Try these proven techniques for conquering writer's block. The methods are different, but their goal is the same - to get you "unstuck" and writing:

1. Write a headline. Before getting started on your letter, report or memo, ask yourself: "If this were a news story, what would be the headline?" Coming up with a headline forces you to identify the single idea you're trying to get across.

2. Create an outline. We're not talking about a long drawn-out outline with Roman numerals. Just jot down the major points you want to make and use it as a guide while you're writing.

3. Write it wrong. When you're working on your first draft, forget about typos, poorly constructed sentences and awkward transitions. The sole purpose of your first draft is to get your basic ideas down on paper. In other words: Just do it.  You can worry about "cleaning it up" later.

4. Take 10. For 10 minutes (time yourself), write nonstop. Glance at your outline if it helps, but keep writing. Sure, some of it won't be usable. But you'll find the simple process of continuous writing will help shape your thoughts.

5. Say it out loud. If you're drawing a blank trying to write the first sentence, say it out loud. Pretend the person to whom you're writing the letter is sitting across from you. What's the first thing you'd say? Now write it.

6. Switch readers. Sometimes writing a letter can be difficult because you know there's a good chance the reader may be intimidated or angry about your message. Write your first draft as if you're writing to someone else - someone who's friendly and receptive to what you have to say. You can change your tone when you go back to revise it.

7. Pick a card. Stuck on the order in which to present your points? Get a few index cards and write down one idea per card that you'd like to include in your letter. Don't worry about the sequence. Once all your ideas are down on cards, rearrange them so the ideas flow in a logical sequence.

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The truth is, most of us aren't great writers. One reason is that we try too hard to sound fancy or formal. But concise and conversational does a better job when trying to communicate ideas. For help, get the Executive Report: Business Writing: A Guide to Clear, Concise and Effective Writing.